While I may flirt or develop friendships with other Black gay men, I’ve never seriously pursued a relationship with one. I tried to deny it, but when I thought about my dating history, I realized that my friends were right. But when I discussed my issue with friends, other queer men of color, they all said I have a type: white men. I like to think of myself as someone who’s adventurous when it comes to love and sex, someone who’d never rule out potential partners or new experiences. That's not uncommon among millennials, but as a Black gay man, I've begun to wonder how my race has affected my chances of finding love. I’m quickly approaching my 25th birthday and have come to the realization that I’ve never been in a long-term relationship.